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[quote=Anonymous] OP, I'm going to chime in here, as I am quite literally in the middle of a similar situation with a parent/s. I'm not commenting on the housing issue because that's not something I understand or applies to my situation.

My dad, like your mom, has had multiple falls and hospitalizations-the most recent being this past Sunday, came home late Tuesday. He was discharged home because he refused rehab, said 'I want to go home'. He cannot walk, is not continent, cannot shower and is losing weight (he has advanced Parkinsons). My mother is his POA (legally, due to cognitive decline from the parkinsons) and she went along with it!!! I've posted about them before-she got a broken hip last year caring for him and never fully recovered.

He belongs in a rehab and he needs full time care! I am POA for them if SHE is unable to make decisions-but right now I just get to get calls from case managers and oh yeah, panicked calls from Mom when he's on the floor, like on Sunday. Anyhow, he's now home, she REFUSES to get home care help and I have NO IDEA what will happen when my visiting brother leaves tomorrow and I go back to work. I'm TERRIFIED to be honest. I'm so scared he will fall or even worse, she will get hurt/fall caring for him. Then what do I do???

OP, you are right to find a safe home for her. I love it when people say 'hire help'. Have they actually TRIED to hire help? It's very difficult, and then hopefully they will actually show up. Easy for sister to say 'hire help'...she's not the one who has to handle everything when help does not come. YOu have a job and young children. I have a full time job, a young dc with sn whom I am a single parent to, and commute 2 hrs a day. What exactly am I supposed to do?

I'm sorry OP. It's so difficult. I'm heading over for Thanksgiving (I live 2 minutes away) and at least today I can keep them safe. But this stress is taking a toll on me.[/quote]

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