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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here. To the PP above - yes the truth is I’m nervous about getting dinner ready for 15 in my small kitchen. I’m not the best of cooks for large scale and I’m worried. I offered to host because I’m the middle point for family coming from all different directions and i’m the only one with a big enough house. My parents are elderly, my Dad isn’t doing well and I worry this could br one of the last times we are all together as a family. Everyone, except my sister, understands that I’m trying to keep things as simple as possible, so there is no stress and we can all enjoy each others time to the extent possible. I’m not mad about my sister’s bossiness and insistence that what I’m doing isn’t enough, I’m mad that when things didn’t go her way she is now pouting and refusing to bring bagels. Like who does that? It’s petty and obnoxious. And btw - her boys are babied by her and it’s embarrassing. They were never allowed to launch. They are great however. The problem has always been her. I always try to overlook her crazy and and I will do so this year too. Oh - and I like the suggestion of a breakfast casserole so I plan on having that to go with the bagels. Easy enough and will hopefully keep my sister happy and quiet for the day. [/quote]

We get it op. Everyone is zooming in on "boys" and "bagels"
They don't understand that you're trying to pull something off with a lot of unknowns, and your sister is doing the bare minimum to help but making a lot of demands. These are all adults. Most will be sleeping until noon. They can find food if they need to eat. Then they'll all sit their expectant a$$es down at 4 and want more food and then leave you to clean up. [/quote]

No, PP.  You’re wrong.  OP couldn’t have made it more clear that her issues with her sister have nothing to do with Thanksgiving.  She’s creating the drama here.  Now we’re hearing for the first time that OP doesn’t like how her sister “babies” her adult sons.  Etc.

The sister isn’t asking that OP make the guys breakfast.  She’s offering to do it herself.  So let her.  And that everybody is going to sleep until noon is unadulterated bullshit.  I’ve never known of a single family where all of the guests sleep in the host’s house until noon on Thanksgiving Day.   It’s doesn’t happen.  Either it’s an exaggeration or we’re talking about a family of weirdos of epic proportions, in which case the least of OP’s problem is that some of the guests want a hot breakfast.

OP is doing no one a favor by agreeing to have everyone at her house for Thanksgiving because it is centrally located and then stressing out about the entire process and taking it out on her guests.   She needs to be more gracious and go with the flow. The dinner will be made. In one way or another.[/quote]

OP here. You make some good points and thank you for that. You are right-  if I continue to pout myself by being mad or holding a grudge about my sister now refusing to bring bagels out of spite that makes me equally petty and spiteful.  That’s why I’m venting here and it’s helpful to be reminded of this even if hard to hear. But for the record my family absolutely WILL roll out of bed between 11 and noon. They are all night owls. Brother has college aged boys, sister has mid-twenty boys and I have 2 teenage boys. Everyone arrives Wednesday and I’m certain it will be a late night for everyone. And yes, my sister has always babied her kids. I brought that up because a few posters recognized that and commented on it. Anyway, your post was helpful to keep me in check and I appreciate that. [/quote]

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