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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][b]OP, if your ILs paid for your wedding, would you be okay with them making all/most of the decisions?[/b]

Did you attend SIL's wedding?  Do you know who attended and who planned (like if it was SIL and MIL making joint decisions).  By the way, isn't it a good thing that SIL chose the $3k vendor instead of the $20k vendor?  How is that something to be salty about after all these years?

You're counting other people's money.  If your DH is/was upset about this, or wished he could afford a wedding, I can see your point.  Otherwise, I find it hard to emphathize.[/quote]

I noticed OP hasn't answered this question.  You're bitter, I get it.  But be realistic and ask yourself if you would still be complaining if the ILs gave money for the wedding and called the shots too.[/quote]

Yes, I would let them make 100% of the decisions.  Location, guest list, vendor, menu.  Seriously, this is silly, my ILs didn't want anything to do with my wedding why would they want to plan anything.  I think I got my answer now.  Good to know that when the question is presented as "should you treat your kids unequally when it comes to paying for wedding", everyone agrees what a horrible parent you are if you pay for daughter's but not son's (if you had the money), but when the questions is presented as "should a DIL be upset that the ILs paid for one child's wedding in full but contributes 0 for hers" then the answer is no your ILs did no wrong.  This has been fun.  LOL.  I will be logging off now.  Those on the moral high horse, I am sure Karma will find its way to you soon.  Those who shared good insights, thank you![/quote]

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