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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Not easier, but different. Some people love the baby days. I did not relish them and while they were not traumatic, I am not nostalgic for them. I am not sentimental when I see pregnant women or parents with babies and toddlers.

I enjoy having elementary age kids and I am trying to soak up all I can of this window where my kids are independent, capable and interesting to talk to - but still love spending time with me and aren’t embarrassed by me. I worry less about their physical safety or nutrition and more about their feelings and the values I am trying to impart.

Parenting is not easier or harder than I anticipated. It is actually less wholly consuming than I feared it would be. What caught me by surprise is how difficult it is to sit with my kids’ big emotions. I can handle my own anger, disappointment, jealousy, etc. but when my kids experience those things it takes a lot more effort than I imagined to help them through it.[b] The impulse to want to “fix” things for your kids so they don’t have to feel sadness or loss is so strong[/b]. [/quote]

My most recent parenting book states that fixing things for kids is a large cause of anxiety. She said kids need to learn lots of disappointment as kids so that they know how to handle it when they're on their own. :([/quote]

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