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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Etc me guess you were always a bit smug about having the perfect family and parents with the perfect relationship.
And now you have to be an adult and realize perfect doesn't exist.
Time to grow the hell up.
This really doesn't concern you at all.
Yet you've decided to make it your personal tragedy that suggests a degree of narcissism and inappropriate levels of codependency.
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I wouldn't have been so harsh, but this is true. There's enough emoting and hand-wringing about posters' own betrayals by their spouses that seem completely over the top on this board, but feeling that way about parental affairs? This isn't the end of the world. Your surviving parent may have been fine with it. There might have been reasons for this situation. You can start hating your deceased parent's guts now, but I think you should accept that you will never know the full picture, and therefore cannot judge.

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And affair has nothing to do with parent’s love for you. Your reaction is over the top.[/quote]

Agree. Their love and their bad behavior and lies are different things. It's not like they could love only one person at a time. People lie to people they love every day. Be mad at the liar, but no need to question the love.[/quote]
Please. Most affairs are about sex, not about love.[/quote]

No most affairs are about selfishness, ego and low self esteem and are most often committed by those with deep rooted issues.[/quote]

Many are simply just about loneliness.[/quote]

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