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[quote=Anonymous]My family is far away and we travel to ILs for Thanksgiving and spend Christmas at home. I want my kids to wake up in they own beds on Christmas morning, and I wanted to (and did) develop our own Christmas traditions that draw from both of our backgrounds instead of just doing what ILs want to do. I also have very little interesting packing up all our gifts, stockings, etc. and taking it to ILs, plus all the cold weather gear, plus all the other stuff you have to bring for kids for an extended stay in someone else's home, right after I just did a lot of this for Thanksgiving. And you know 90% of that falls on mom because dad doesn't understand what has to be packed.

ILs are always welcome at our house on Christmas and have never come.

We already visit ILs 4-5x a year, including Thanksgiving, and then will visit us, at most once a year and often none. We see my family, at most, twice (one visit to them and them visiting us once). This is fine -- we live closer to ILs and far from my family. But that's an enormous amount of travel for us, with young kids, just to visit family. I want Christmas to be a "home memory" for my kids, as it was for both DH and I.

Also, DH's mom is very Catholic and her Christmas revolves around multiple masses, advent, etc. Neither DH nor I are Catholic (he is lapsed and is agnostic at best) so these traditions don't have meaning for us and when we have spent Christmas with his family, we participate in this stuff primarily to humor his mom. No way am I dragging my non-Catholic kids through all that just to appease her. They are not even baptized, I'm not sending them to multiple Catholic masses over Christmas.

Anyway, we have found "we are spending Christmas at home this year" to be a statement that comes easier the more subsequent years you say it.[/quote]

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