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[quote=Anonymous]I’d set expectations for behavior in a neutral moment. So Larlo, you’re getting older so I want to review the house rules with you and see if you have anything to add. Go over each rule and set a consequence for not following it. Remember pick your battles and make sure these are things you can follow through on every single time.

Personally I’d ignore the isolated you’re not the boss of me, or random smart asz comment, but would expect him to still be getting the homework out in your example. If he’s constantly arguing leave the room or send him outside or something. Don’t get into an arguing match with a teenager. Revisit this later and add it to the house rules if you must and discuss consequences for excessive arguing or flat out disrespect.

Use less language and less arguing when he’s already upset and refer him back to the house expectations and consequences.  If he doesn’t follow the rules, point to the consequence and follow through. Consistently. Don’t argue about it. Talk about it later if you need to.

Praise him when he does well, can’t stress that enough. So often we focus on what they aren’t doing and forget to tell them when they’re doing good. Use the moments he’s doing well to build that trust and give him a little more responsibility. Wow you’ve done so well this week, would you like to invite a friend to a movie this weekend or would you like to cook a special dinner with me or you can have an extra hour of screen time this weekend because you’ve really been showing your maturity.

If all else fails you can always take off the bedroom door or set up a tent for him in the backyard😜 [/quote]

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