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If you're on anti-depressants and you are that miserable...

... you won't be very happy elsewhere, OP.

Moving is not a magic pill. You're trying to run away from yourself. Fix what's wrong instead, and if you want, you can also move. But treat the two separately, because they are separate. I think your husband understands this about you, hence his moving the goalposts - which, BTW, isn't cool either. But he probably can't articulate what's wrong with your scenario because he's too close to the situation.

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DP here and this is not true. The weather, the natural surroundings, the people (such as family), the available activities can make a big difference. It is possible that she would be unhappy anywhere, but there are a lot of people that don't like DC for a reason.

For me, I find it logistically difficult. Our families live out of state, so we miss out on most of their get-togethers and celebrations, and if we want to visit we have to fly our whole family cross-country. We can't just make a last-minute weekend visit. As our parents age I really don't know what we'll do. 
Also, my DH is stressed out and grumpy from his job and commute, and somehow he can't see what it's doing to him. I know we might not find a better situation somewhere else but it sounds like people are happier when they move to lower-cost, lower-stress areas. [/quote]

OP - Thank you. This sums up my situation to a T. I have always been close to my family and living away from them means that I miss out on the little things that fill up my cup. [/quote]

If your family of origin is the only thing that makes you happy why did you marry, OP? Marriage means leaving your family and starting your own. The fact that you blame your depression on this just sounds like not taking responsibility for your choices, which is probably why you are depressed because you can’t figure out how to be honest about your own choices.[/quote]

DP here.  You are being rude, unsupportive and obtuse.  If people want to go to a thread to vent, let them.  It is not up to you to beat them down.  It is precisely what people do not like about DC - the snark, the unwillingness to be supportive, the fake superiority, and the one upmanship BS. Just shut it. [/quote]

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