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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Sounds like he might have some issues, but come on, it's a show your kids probably wanted to watch, and he was watching with them - that is not bad.

Watch it yourself to catch up or let them tell you what happened. Next time, be more mature for your kids' sake and try being happy for them - wow! Lucky you, wad it good?

Your husband's reaction was unacceptable but I don't know, maybe he didn't want to get more texts about your kids getting to watch THEIR show?!

If you don't want anyone watching without you, that's on you to make that clear and set it up as such.[/quote]

He has his own show he watches with them. I started watching this so as not to cut into theirs. Sure, it’s a misunderstanding.[/quote]

Your goal needs to be mastering regulating your own nervous system so the kids can co-regulate with some adult. Your second goal needs to be providing your kids with a peaceful home environment. Not to win every battle, triangulate to "experts" or DCUM but to get to the point where you both think and feel like water off a duck's back when it come to TRIVIA like a tv show. That you not only reacted but cared so much may be down to something like ADD and reaction sensitivity in yourself.

You are both very reactive, can you see that? It is up to you to manage yourself and get your own needs met in ways that are sustainable so you don't care so much about minutia. Join a book club or something. If your kids are happy and taken care of, why is that not a yay? You need to not be looking to those things as some primary source of endorphins so you feel then act so reactive. You guys play tug of war with your kids, can you see that? It's NOT good for them. [/quote]

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