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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I really appreciated the long post from 9:39. Especially this part, which is what my DH is lacking:

"Third, my parents raised me to internalize the idea that [b]if others are working, you shouldn't be sitting on your a@@ watching. [/b] I teach my kids the same thing. If I am clearing the table, they damn well better be helping, unless they are doing homework or something like that. OP's DH needs to accept that that is the case. [b]No one relaxes until everyone relaxes[/b]."[/quote]

I very much have this mindset but I've come to realize that DH just runs on a different schedule.  I want to get everything done after kids go to bed so I'm done for the day.  He wants to lay around forever then finish it up at like 10 (or sometimes go to bed with it unfinished).  It drives me crazy mainly b/c I don't feel like I can relax until I'm certain it'll be done and since he's not 100% on following through, I'm not certain it'll be done.  [b]But my desire to do it right away isn't somehow inherently more correct than his desire to relax awhile before chores.[/b][/quote]

I think this is a really important and self-aware point.
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