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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’ve always out earned DH, sometimes by like 4x; right now by about 2x. That fact alone doesn’t bother me - it’s the mental load that bothers me. I am sometimes resentful because if I were a male earning what I earn, I could easily expect to have a wife that handled all the household and child-related tasks that I take on. DH is great, and does more than many, but he is not a wife.[/quote]

Every bit of this is also true for me. The only thing I would add is that I feel quite shunned by most other women -- including, sadly, my own mom and my MIL. No one has ever actually told me why but based on what I glean from a variety of comments, I think it is for some that they think I have it easy and have an unfair advantage in the workplace, and for some that I am selfish and chose my own career at a cost to my children and my husband (the truth is: he chose and I picked up the pieces). I have a handful of mom friends who don't shun me but for the most part, it is a lonely existence.[/quote]

My mother was the only woman in her business school in 1970, she met my dad there and they married and had kids. Both had very successful and lucrative careers but my dad had a bunch of golf buddies and poker night friends while my mom just worked, managed the kids / household in her free time and had no female work peers and very few friends. Most moms were stay at home in that era and shunned her, often very rude and hostile. I know she is proud to have been such a trailblazer for women in her industry but she can reflect back now that it was extremely lonely and socially isolating to be a successful businesswoman. My sister and I have chosen less lucrative and difficult careers.[/quote]

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