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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I literally found comedic relief once I found out who my DH had a ONS with during a midlife crisis. I mean, it didn't make it hurt any less and we had a crapton of work to do in both IC and MC, but I actually laughed out loud when I found out.[/quote]

Wow! Because of the absurdity of someone being willing to sleep with him?  Or how far down he had to stoop to find someone?[/quote]
Just all of it. You know those scenes in movies where situation is so bad/scary/lifechanging/hurtful but also just so ridiculous that the characters cannot stop laughing? That was me. My brain just could not compute. It would almost make sense to me on some level if he cheated with someone younger, higher in their career, a better body, etc but I just could not (and still can't) understand. Through lots of therapy, it was that she came on to him like a drooling puppy dog with stars in her eyes while he was drunk and down (he was in her dive bar alone) and made him feel so desired and cool and special and whatever. He was in a full midlife crisis at the time with an enormously stressful period at work, we were in the throws of dual working parents of young children, and he took the bait as an escape.

She was 11 years older than me, 50+lbs bigger, had full on metal braces, was a waitress in a dive bar and cleaned houses on the side, and cried to him about not being able to pay her $900 rent for her studio.

DH and I are the same age, very established in our careers, advanced degrees, own multiple houses, regularly work out and our favorite things to do together are hike, kayak, cook new recipes, and go for runs.

I was basically just like holy crap buddy, if that's what you're into- I'm not it! [/quote]

*throes[/quote]

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