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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You might have softened the blow by broaching it earlier before you had planned your menu and by giving them some reasons why you don't want to travel that make clear it is not about your affection for them or their qualities as hosts.

Obviously, there is nothing wrong with deciding to stay home, but if you are concerned that you have upset your mom, you might think about how you delivered the news and whether you were intentionally or unintentionally hurtful.[/quote]

Yes, if your are going to turn the tables on what they regard as tradition, this feels a little passive agressive last minute. Thanksgiving is one of those holidays people tend to plan far in advance or if hearing no different, assume that their traditional gathering stands. Admit it, you wanted to throw in a little grenade. Good job, OP. May the rest of your holidays be bright…[/quote]

Are you always so absurdly melodramatic, or only on DCUM?[/quote]

The melodrama is all OP’s.[/quote]

Not even close, but i understand that this line of thinking is bizarrely important to you, so please, do continue.  :lol: [/quote]

What precisely in the PP is melodramatic? The fact that OP admits her mom acted as if she were punched in the gut seems to indicate that OP inserted some drama into the situation. [/quote]

It's more the fact that OP writes as if she relished her mother's reaction that has disturbed everyone and made the claws come out.

Sometimes writing in a neutral way actually comes across as negative, OP, just FYI. It's context-dependent. Clearly you're not a sensitive, socially-aware sort of person. This is not your fault, but it's the reason why people are reacting the way they are. This was never going to go well, the way you wrote your post. You might want to pay attention to that in the future... if you wish.

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Yeah OP seems pleased with herself for hurting her mom. Congrats, OP[/quote]

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