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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Do people really believe that a high schooler should be the top priority here when talking about dividing a family? The high schooler probably doesn't even understand what the larger implications of this decision are either (she probably envisions continuity and having everything the same and then having parents just go back to how things were after a year, which just doesn't seem all that likely to happen here). The having one parent stay option is close to a nice and supportive one-year divorce situation for a kid. [/quote]

Yes, because some of us have lived this, and I can tell you unequivocally that teens are self-absorbed and as long as they're with one caring parent, they don't care that much where the other is, since they know the situation is temporary. It's not that they don't love the other parent. But at that age, friends and familiar situations matter MORE.

And let's not get bogged down in what OP wants. Apparently she's so beaten down she can't even think for herself. What matters this year is the kid, hands down. When my oldest was a junior and senior, he was the priority in the house. It will be the same when his siblings get to that stage. If OP's daughter is like most teens her age, she will prefer to stay with friends and survive college admissions in familiar territory.

This seems like a sad situation where the man of the house has followed his career, wants and needs all his life, and brainwashed his wife to never plan ahead for herself and the kid. The biggest loser is the kid. [/quote]

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