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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’d go to the in-laws. But no need to spend all weekend sitting around reading the paper. Head home on Friday - or go to somewhere fun in between there & home for a night. [/quote]
This. They’re elderly and not very active, but I guarantee they want to see your family. It sucks that Thanksgiving isn’t as fun with them, but your children should get to know them while they can. Buy a pack of conversation starters and see if you can elicit stories about their childhoods that would interest your kids. Do something fun on the back half of the weekend.[/quote]

Bring a new toy or books for your kids, leave early and do something fun on way back for your kids to make an adventure. Is there any place you could take your in-laws when you visit? My mom hates driving into the city, but we try and take her in and do something fun with the kids when we visit.  Fun memories for all. Last year we saw my in-laws on another weekend in November because the plane tickets were outrageous over T-Giving.  It was still wonderful to be together and make memories.

I will say this as a child who was forced to go to my dad's parents for certain holidays (he passed away when I was young) and once every week until I was 18... I didn't like it as a kid for a variety of reasons.  I was never allowed to skip.  I sucked it up, was nice and polite. I ended up becoming a people please.  I helped take care of my grandparents when they both got sick, but once they died I don't see the other paternal family anymore. They took no real interest in me as a kid or adult and made no real effort (and other things).

That being said I had and still have a very close relationship with my maternal grandparents.  For many years we were the only kids, but we had TONS of fun.

Also, on a side note does your husband ever take the kids for a weekend to see his parents and you stay home?  My DH wanted to visit his family more, but I don't want to go as often, so for one or two long weekends a year he takes the kids himself.  We do go usually 2-3 times as a family.  He makes a plan and does one fun thing a day with kids and his parents and the rest of the day is more relaxed.  [/quote]

I am a bit confused by what you are telling us.  OP should take her kids and go.  You were in this situation (but even moreso since it was weekly), and in the end you didn't end up being close with anyone you were forced to see and didn't naturally take an interest in you?  But you think OP should have her children go?[/quote]

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