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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I did a combo of all three and I’m happy I kept up the breastfeeding. It was nice to have the option for 5am wakes up that persisted until 18 months, on the plane, and out and about. A few times while flying, the milk spoiled from my flight delays so breastfeeding saved us. Regardless of what you do, parenting is so hard![/quote]

OP here. I will definitely be down breastfeeding by 1 year but glad extended breastfeeding worked for you. [/quote]

Spoken with the confidence of a FTM.

Here’s the thing, OP. Some babies don’t want to wean at a year. I should know, because I had two of them. I only planned to nurse for one year each, but what I was not planning was for my children to have their own opinion on the matter and for them to strongly resist any attempt I made to wean them. For them, nursing was a bond and especially since I was away from
Them at work during the day it become an important way to reconnect with mom.

So, i would just urge you to be less black and white about your plans. Just like a lot of moms early on this thread told you EPing is very hard and You refused to hear them at first (but seem to Have come around), I would not be so confident that you will only nurse for X amount of time.

Also - if you really want your baby to get the benefits of breastmilk, nursing (not feeding pumped and frozen milk) is really the way to go. Plenty of studies about how freezing and even refrigeration of breastmilk can alter the beneficial aspects of it. Just something to be aware of - frozen milk is fine but it’s not the same. [/quote]

OP here. I’m glad that worked for you but that’s not my approach. Many people wean at the resistance of the child. I likely will stop breastfeeding when I go back to work or by 1 year because I will be trying for a second around that time.

I’ve researched a lot and they say pumped and frozen milk is just as nutritious as fresh milk. I see no difference from pumping and feeding baby a bottle right after. I personally don’t believe breastmilk is this amazing thing everyone claims. Many studies show breastmilk is really only important in the first first weeks. [/quote]

Lol. Ok, Op. You sound insufferable and sanctimonious. As an experienced mom of two, all I am saying is that plenty of women make plans for how their children are gonna be before they are born, and they are not prepared for actually parenting a real independent human being who has their own opinions, needs, and wants that can contradict with your own. You don’t know this yet, because your child is a newborn. And newborns are only in eat/sleep/poop mode. And because you are a FTM. And because you are not approaching any of these conversations with an openness to hearing from anyone else who has more experience than you or who might have a different perspective. So you will learn this eventually, but maybe the hard way.

I hope your child loves food when they are 1 and loses interest in nursing. But a lot of kids don’t! And then weaning becomes a major fight. You’ve never experienced a crying 1 year old pleading and crying to nurse. You have no idea what that is like. But sure, be so confident about your plans and so rigid and inflexible that you literally are not even open to any idea of life unrolling differently than your plans.

I hope for your child’s sake that your child is easy, with an easy temperament. I hope they are flexible, adaptable, have no sensory/behavioral/developmental issues, have no food allergies or special needs, have no disabilities or challenges, that they are neurotypical, and eat and sleep well, and that they can conform to your rigidity. Otherwise, parenting is going to be a tough road for you.

Also, refrigeration and freezing impacts the beneficial aspects of breastmilk. I don’t care how you feed your kid - it’s all fine - but your research is not the same as science.

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC6506430/[/quote]

You’re the insufferable one, not OP. You’re acting all high and mighty because you’re an “ experienced mom of two”. This might have been your situation, but I know many other parents who successfully weaned without any issues. I’ve successfully weaned all 4 of my kids by 1 year. One of them put up a big fight but I just let him tantrum. Same with giving up bottles or the pacifier. I didn’t give it their tantrums and it got better in less than 1 week.

OP said she pains to weans before 1 year to try to get pregnant or when she goes back to work. That is her choice. Your opinion on the matter is irrelevant. She asked about nursing vs pumping, not when she should stop. It sounds like you’re on an ego trip and mad OP isn’t listening to you.

Breast milk or any kind - from the tap, pumped, or frozen is fine. Formula is fine. Stop being so concerned with how long someone chooses to feed their kid when OP didn’t even ask for advice about that.

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