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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]DS has the same issue. I have encouraged him to keep everything quiet until he decides where to go. That is what we'll tell people too. Especially relatives.[/quote]

Yeah, that's the problem - he knows which acceptance he'll take, and everyone else suspects, but the acceptance isn't the end. Attending isn't a guarantee if he's admitted. [/quote]

[b]This is family, right? Family that you love and who loves you and your kid? If that’s the case, *if it were us* I would just be honest. “He’s at the xyz stage, still hoping for blah blah but don’t know how things will turn out becaise of blah blah.”[/b]

The other vague responses are for people with whom you are not particularly close or there’s some issue about competition or something else that leads you to hold them at arms’ length.[/quote]

OP, keep to the line that he'll announce when he's decided which school to go to and not before.

For those who keep pressing he/you can say that you understand that everyone wants him to go to their alma mater, but he doesn't want the pressure or opinions from family about why they wnat him to go to X school because he needs to make this decision for himself and doesn't want to be influenced by well meaning family members lobbying.  So he's not going to say anything until he's made the decision on his own about what's right for him.

For PP above, the whole point is that no matter how hard they try, family that is pressing for an answer because they have alums of 3 of the 5 schools that he applied to, will definitely try to lobby "oh, Y college was so good.  we did this and I loved that and this was one of the best parts of school for me!"  even it is just reminiscing about what they loved about school.  I have family like this and they say they don't lobby, but they do and they keep trying to put in the well meaning plug for their own alma mater and what the loved about it.  I wouldn't want all of that either, so, I'm not going to do anything that will only encourage the behavior I don't want.[/quote]

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