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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]^^and I never said I expect to be the center of my daughters' worlds! But it's really playing dumb and disingenuous to not admit that there's a difference in adult mother/daughter relationships than adult mother/son relationships. There just is. I still rely on my mom for emotional support in way that no man I know does. And if I expected my son to rely on me in that way as an adult you would all jump in to say that's creepy and overbearing! [/quote]

I appreciate your clarifications.  I just personally think it's a weird way to look at things.  Yes, you're the center of their lives when they're little, but that to me always felt a bit like the overbearing part of parenting not the best part of parenting.  The best part is that they love you the most in the world and you're the center of their universe?  I just personally can't relate.

Your making generalizations about mother/daughter vs mother/son relationships.  Many (not a few) of my female friends have pretty terrible relationships with their moms.  Some people are very close to their mothers.  If anything, I would say most (not all) of the men I know have great and healthy relationships with their mom.  Close enough and positive.  I think mother/daughter relationships have a lot of land mines that get stepped on a lot.[/quote]

Please point to where I said being the center of their universe is the best part of parenting? Because I don't believe it is and would never write that.

I'm sorry about your relationship with your mom, truly. But it sounds like you have mommy issues and are projecting. Ancedota isn't data. I would say that 90% of the adult mother/daughter relationships I know are very emotionally close. Similarly the vast majority of men I know do not rely on their mothers for emotional support in the way the women I know do. That's not saying they're not close to their mothers, but the relationships are different. Frankly I think if a man posted about calling his mother daily for advice and support people might think that's a bit overbearing on the part of his mother. [/quote]

PP back.  You are correct this is what you said.  So I stand corrected.  I still can't relate to what you wrote and go back to my original comment I guess.  I just have never thought about my son this way in terms of thinking about how some day he'll love someone more than me.  I have both genders, for what it's worth.  And sure, maybe I have mommy issues.  Probably most people do on some level.  Not sure how that's relevant here.

"I think about this with my son a lot, it makes it extra hard. I want him to get married and love his wife more than me, that's natural and healthy. It just makes it all that harder knowing he'll never love me as much as he does right now. At least with my daughters I know it will always kind of be the same dynamic."

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Yes. I look at my three year old and how much he loves me and it makes me sad this time is finite. You caught me! Also I know that as my children age I will likely remain emotionally closer to my daughters than my son. Caught me again!

The fact that you see something weird in these statements makes you sound a little off tbh. [/quote]

Other people responded to you FYI and I am not the only person who will object to the stereotype that sons are not close to mothers and daughters are.[/quote]

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