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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]^^and I never said I expect to be the center of my daughters' worlds! But it's really playing dumb and disingenuous to not admit that there's a difference in adult mother/daughter relationships than adult mother/son relationships. There just is. I still rely on my mom for emotional support in way that no man I know does. And if I expected my son to rely on me in that way as an adult you would all jump in to say that's creepy and overbearing! [/quote]

I appreciate your clarifications.  I just personally think it's a weird way to look at things.  Yes, you're the center of their lives when they're little, but that to me always felt a bit like the overbearing part of parenting not the best part of parenting.  The best part is that they love you the most in the world and you're the center of their universe?  I just personally can't relate.

Your making generalizations about mother/daughter vs mother/son relationships.  Many (not a few) of my female friends have pretty terrible relationships with their moms.  Some people are very close to their mothers.  If anything, I would say most (not all) of the men I know have great and healthy relationships with their mom.  Close enough and positive.  I think mother/daughter relationships have a lot of land mines that get stepped on a lot.[/quote]

Please point to where I said being the center of their universe is the best part of parenting? Because I don't believe it is and would never write that.

I'm sorry about your relationship with your mom, truly. But it sounds like you have mommy issues and are projecting. Ancedota isn't data. I would say that 90% of the adult mother/daughter relationships I know are very emotionally close. Similarly the vast majority of men I know do not rely on their mothers for emotional support in the way the women I know do. That's not saying they're not close to their mothers, but the relationships are different. Frankly I think if a man posted about calling his mother daily for advice and support people might think that's a bit overbearing on the part of his mother. [/quote]

I don't know one grown woman who speaks to her mother daily and asks for advice and support daily.  I would think that's weird for a woman or a man.  Who even has time for that.  I have friends and I talk to my spouse.  [/quote]

Really? You don't know a single woman who speaks to her mother every day? I find that very hard to believe. [/quote]

I am thinking and trying to be genuine.  I know one woman who never had kids and is super close to her mom.  I don't know for a fact they speak daily.  But if I learned that it would make sense and I wouldn't be surprised.

Anyone I know doesn't really talk to anyone on the phone daily.  I don't know.  My friend circle, we all have full-time jobs and are raising kids.  [/quote]

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