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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Dear Prof,

I have been working on these and other skills for years with my ADHD/ASD kid.

He will mess up, despite being explicitly taught these things. He's in contact with the disability office and has already asked you for his extended time.

He had high stats and is an academic, intellectual person, which is why your place of employment accepted him. Sorry, but he's always going to be an absent-minded professor type, and his brain is somewhere in the vicinity of Pluto most of the time.

And you know who it hurts most? Not you. HIM. He is destined to go through life with ADHD and ASD and all his social quirks. You've only got to suffer him for your class. He has to suffer himself for life.

Best regards,

Mom.

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Oh FFS stop using their disabilities like a crutch. The professor is right and if your poor addled ADHD kids you have probably hovered over and made excuses for and bulldozed a path for over the years can’t meet basic expectations, you failed them. [/quote]

Not PP, but you obviously do not have a neuro-divergent kid, which is probably a good thing given your attitude.

18 ADHD kids often need a bit more direction, even if you worked to help them be independent in HS.  My ADHD son was independent in HS, dealt with all teachers himself and worked hard to deal with ADHD, lack of EF, anxiety, and all his social quirks, etc.  He managed a 3.6 UW in HS and got into a great college.  But taking things to the next level in College was challenging, and while HE did everything himself, he did need me to assist him with working thru what to do/putting a plan in place.  When things go wrong in their mind, they spiral downward quickly.  And yeah, I will help them determine the right pathway and what they need to do next---it's my $50K+/year and I want my kid to succeed and launch themself into being a successful adult.

Note: said kid graduated in 4 years, after a disastrous first year and major change (from what he'd dreamed of being since age 10), started work immediately at a great company living alone 2K miles from home, got excellent reviews for first 2 years of work and gotten promotions and excellent raises.  Had I not helped them figure things out at 18/19 they'd have dropped out and who knows what.  Instead he's an independent adult with a great job/career. [/quote]

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