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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, your reaction to this is appalling.

Take a deep breath and course-correct because what you have shown about yourself in this post is not a thing I would want in a spouse and yours might feel the same. [/quote]

Settle down. I'm one of the people who think it's understandable that DH might want to go to the funeral, but OP's reaction isn't "appalling." You are overreacting to the post. [/quote]

A lot of knee-jerk overreactions on this thread and a lot of harsh vilifying of OP. I really doubt that most of the PPs insisting she's crazy or jealous would actually go to their college BF's/GF's funeral after so long of zero contact. They just want to ream the OP for daring to think this isn't dreamy and romantic. [/quote]

Honoring the dead is older than humanity. I have no idea what I'd want in DH's shoes (my college GF is my wife, so...), but I would never dream of interfering with my spouse's expression of that universal human impulse.[/quote]

Do you honor all the dead? Every past best friend who moved away and fell out of touch for years? Every relative in every location? Do tell.

I'm not saying OP should "interfere" if the DH wants to attend, but these lofty posts about honoring the dead leave an impression of noble DCUMers going off to funerals of every long-past lover or friend. Doubtful. [/quote]

<sigh> The PP said nothing about honoring 'all' dead.  I'm nearly 60 and am experiencing more frequently the deaths of people I went to school with.  It feels like a wound when I hear about it and different people impact me differently.  In OP's DH's place, I'd likely go to the funeral.  Yes, the relationship may have ended badly but there was likely enough positive experiences shared with other people attending that it's not just an acknowledgement of the dead but also an opportunity to reconnect with those who were/are important to me.  [/quote]

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