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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have 3 kids (2,4, 7). I often feel touched out. Recently I flinched when my 7 year old tried to hold my hand and I realized how touched out I was. I’m still nursing the 24m old which I love, but I’m sure it’s a part of it. It’s just during wake up and sleep. That part is the best part of our days. The rest of the time when she won’t let other people hold her, help her get or talk to her sucks. The other two are all over me too. Like I still can’t pee in private.

The weird part is that Dh never understands. He’s a great dad and very hands on, but they don’t want to snuggle him nonstop or nurse him. [/quote]

This just sounds like a lot of choices. Having 3 kids, nursing one for 2 yrs, etc. [/quote]

NP.  Kindly, did you read the article?  You are actually proving the author’s point - ie this mother “asked for it”.

Of course PP made choices. Why can’t mothers feel some ambivalence about their choices?  Are you trying to tell PP that because she “asked for it,” she is not entitled to have any negative emotions about motherhood?  [/quote]

DP.  I can maybe understand 2 kids.  But choosing to have kids 3x and then complaining is ridiculous.  [/quote]

I’m not the PP with 3 kids so I don’t have a personal bias here. But I don’t understand your thinking.

Like under your thinking, wouldn’t a mom of 1 have the same argument against moms of 2?  “Quit complaining, you chose to have 2 kids”

And wouldn’t a SAHM have the same bias against working moms?  “Quit complaining, you chose to have a career and kids”.

Or maybe you are saying that it’s just so objectively unreasonable to have three kids that those mothers don’t deserve empathy/grace/understanding?

I worry when we (as a society) get too invested in the “right” path of motherhood - like motherhood should be limited to women with 1 or 2 kids, who work part time and have a household income well into six figures - we fall into the traps the author identifies. Basically we now pit mothers against each other for making choices we personally didn’t make and lose sight of the fact that society is failing mothers in general.

Just food for thought. [/quote]

It's not "objectively unreasonable" but just so obvious that it's hard. Like if I chose a job that was a gazillion hours to make $$$$ money (more than I needed). Or buying an enormous house and saying it takes forever to clean it. Or a very time consuming hobby that turns out to be very time consuming! I mean yeah it's hard but so what, there are a lot of other paths.

I think having 3+ kids has never been "easy" under any circumstances (historically or elsewhere in the world) so to chalk the difficulty up to some broader societal issue is silly.[/quote]

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