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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I make 3-5 times what my husband makes and I would never do this. We are 100% a team. I wonder if there is more than just the money piece to this. In my case, my husband’s job has more flexibility and he has done lots of kid stuff over the years which allowed me to move up the ladder. I could not be where I am without him (unless I had chosen not to have kids).[/quote]

Yes, I suppose there is more. I only decided to pursue a career at the level I’ve pursued it when reality set in that I simply have to in order to live comfortably, pay for education, and save for retirement. He doesn’t think it is necessary to save for college, and he doesn’t think its necessary to have enough savings to do things like update our home modestly over the next 50 years. So we have big value differences that I failed to identify before marriage.

And I would rather be the one spending more time with my kids, not the other way around.

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So:

1) You are materialistic and when he didn’t step up and provide you with the lifestyle you wanted, you reached for the brass ring; but
2) You can only touch the ring because he cares for the kids, which you paradoxically say is also something you wish you had; so 
3) You get yours and screw everyone else?

Is that about it?

Better file separate tax returns. Or compensate him for being afflicted by your higher marginal rate on his income if you do it this way. [/quote]

Their HHI isn’t even that high. Many UMC families have this set up but it is usually the DH who is the higher earner. One parent steps up in work and one parent steps down or mommy tracks. In this situation, the Dh seems to have plateaued and that is totally ok too.

DH earns a lot so we live a great life. His money is my money.[/quote]

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