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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]We're waiting on decisions and aren't the selective schools types anyway, so this is a very academic question - but where's the line? We're not really HYP people, but if DS really wanted to go and got in, I would be over the moon for him. Same for his high reaches that probably aren't impressive to anyone here. Just curious.[/quote]

No need to share these kinds of news with anyone but your nearest family members.  That is the line. If people ask then tell them. Otherwise, there is zero reason to share anything that can be considered braggy. [/quote]

PP here.  I think families should be able to celebrate in any way they choose. You don't have to be happy for them, just don't act out and be a petulant child about it. [/quote]

Then you miss the point that others may not be celebrating the news they’ve received. While you’re happily sharing, you could be purposefully causing others pain, discomfort, etc. why would anyone do that? If you and your neighbor were both awaiting biopsy results, would you celebrate in any way you chose…including in front of your neighbor who either found out his results or was still waiting for them?

Either you get it or you don’t. [/quote]

So because Child X wanted any of the T25 schools and might have to settle for #30, I should not be able to do a simple post/announcement that my kid got into #5?   If your kid is so fragile that they break down over others getting into a college over them, then they may not be set up to handle a T25 college or life in general.   And you as a parent have done a poor job preparing them for the college admission process, because a smart kid should understand that it's a lottery, you apply and hope for the best, but fact is 95%+ are getting rejected so that's the most likely outcome.   If you cannot handle others having success and being happy for them, then that is a you problem and something you should seriously work on.

My own kid was disappointed to be rejected from their ED1...well "deferred".  We let them mope for a day or so then encouraged them to focus on the other 2 acceptances they just got (one being their top safety and the other being a T50) and keep strong and get the rest of applications done.  
When they got ultimately rejected from their ED1 (a T10 school) we once again let them be a bit disappointed for a day and then focused on reality and the 8+ acceptances they had and figuring out the top 3 and planning to revisit them in April in order to make a decision.  We had prepared our kid to know that things with single digit acceptances are just lotteries so focus on finding excellent targets and safeties and hope for the best.  So they had a long list of excellent acceptances (only got rejected at single digit acceptance schools, WL at a T30 and First year abroad at another single digit school)---so we reminded them that in reality they were only "rejected" at the T10 school, and had amazing results.  4 acceptances in the 30-50 range, 2 excellent safeties in the 60-90 range.  We helped them focus on the positive....and the ultimate task of picking the best place for them.  
In reality, they ended up at what was probably their 2nd choice from the start and probably a better fit for them than the ED1 school in reality.  They are happy and thriving.

Btw, if I was awaiting a biopsy result and my friend was as well, ALL of my friends would be overjoyed for me to share that my result was negative!!  Even if they were still waiting or had just gotten a bad result.  However, I would let my friend know before I posted something to let the rest of my friends/family both near and far know (that's what we use FB for, to reach those not nearby).   I guess I don't have vindictive friends....my friends would all be genuinely happy for me and my families success/good news, and likewise for me.   [/quote]

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