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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am a mom of a middle schooler and I am reading all this like some sort of fiction. My son never hangs out with anyone after school. He does have friends at school it seems - as he tells me about sitting with friends at lunch or choosing his cabin mates for a school trip. But nothing outside school. Maybe he is the one frozen out by mean moms… [/quote]

I’m hosting a bunch of kids at my house today. Invitation is driven by my 12yo son.

I very very occasionally block a kid from coming. There was a kid from elementary who used to push and hit DS so I coached my son to avoid the kid. The mom accused my son of bullying him. School never actually contacted me but I know the school interviewed several kids. I don’t want to deal with the kid or mom so he is not invited to our house.[/quote]

Why the hell is your story relevant to the PP's question? Are you insinuating something about? Sometimes kids are not invited and it has nothing to do with their behavior. So you can take your story and shove it.

Yes, things are nice for your kid now. Other parents can tell tales about their kid's social circle falling apart even as late as college (...my college freshman can't seem to make friends...) A little empathy for those in other social situations would be a redeeming quality.
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I have 3 kids. My oldest just started high school and when he was in middle school, he rarely hung out outside of school. I’m not sure why you are so angry.

My only point was that kids drive these hang outs, not the moms. My kid is not hanging out with the kid of the mom I like best. That may have happened back in preschool but not now in middle school.

I have 4 boys at my house. There were 5th and 6th and 7th boys we could have had but I don’t want too many boys over. That does t mean that they won’t be invited next week but the same kids tend to continue to get together and they are the boys the parents carpool and also host.[/quote]

Kids can drive the hangouts. But so can the moms.  Mom can suggest and host activities.  “Hey Larla, you should invite x and y for a sleepover”.  Larla “can I invite Z instead?”  And mom “not this time”. — mom knows full well there is no next time.

Just an example of how moms drive this stuff. [/quote]

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