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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]How do you deal with this? I would be the sole breadwinner too. She makes 1/10th my income and will probably become a SAHM. If we divorce I will be ruined financially.

We have zero issues in our relationship, I just tend to think of worst case scenarios.[/quote]

You seek therapy to figure out why you suspect your GF, with whom you have zero relationship issues and presumably love, has you paranoid about financial ruin down the road.

I’m a highly educated SAHM who met my high-earning husband when I was working in non-profits and earning substantially less. If he asked for a prenup, it would’ve been the end of our relationship. Relationships carry risk and we both bet on our love, mutual respect, and the people we knew one another to be. I risked future earning potential by dropping my career to raise our kids. He continued up the career ladder and believes that the income he earns today AND being able to have the family life we do, wouldn’t have been possible w/o the decisions we made together and the career sacrifices I made to support his upward trajectory. We’ve been together nearly 20 years and our mutual trust, respect, and investment in the life we’ve built together, is stronger than ever. Good luck, OP.  [/quote]

Amen.

Even if this PP kept her job, her high career DH benefitted from her shorter hours and flexibility at work . The entire family did. Why would he want to keep all his earnings if they divorced. 8 don't get it.

I get signing a prenup for family money that is being passed down or a family business. I wouldn't do it, but it makes some sense if it is fair.[/quote]

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