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[quote=Anonymous]OP,
Something you haven't tried. Spend 30 min a day with her one on one and have DH do the same. Spend the time doing whatever she wants, walk, park, Barbies, just fill her up with your engaged undivided attention. Keep all other comments positive, physically address safety issues, by holding a hand rather than talking, picking her up if she is likely to resist, etc. I'm guessing that by the end of the summer if you change that reactive dynamic and see a psychiatrist yourself (you sound anxious and depressed) that your child will be much easier to get along with. She wants your love and to see herself reflected in a positive way. Right now she gets a ton of power and attention for acting out. You need to get ahead of the curve. It might also help to repeat affirmations to yourself - DD  (her name) is so funny, or whatever is true. Say to yourself, "I am so lucky to have [name] in my life, today I will show her love and patience". "Eh, she's just a kid." Try to get her to sleep earlier, use melatonin if your ped approves, TJ's has a chewable low dose tablet.

Finally, get out alone with your husband at least once a week, this dynamic has taken a toll on all of you. Have at least a few nights where you relax when the kids are in bed and read fun books, pursue a hobby, exercise, whatever you enjoy.

If DD is not in camp it might be worth finding one and doing a mom yoga class or stroller strides or something with younger DD while she is there. Exercise and the company of other moms saved my sanity.[/quote]

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