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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I do wonder how people let themselves go and get overweight (more than say 20lbs). I don't understand how people can allow their health to slip and have all that extra fat hanging off their body.

I wonder if you are only in your 30s and 40s and are already 20, 30, 40lbs if it occurs to you what a physical mess you are going to be at 50, 60, and 70. I wonder if you have children and if it bothers you that you might not be around for them very long when they reach adulthood, or if you are around if you will have limited mobility and energy for them.[/quote]

This is the OP again.  thanks for your honesty, but again, I wasn't really asking if people judge me because I'm fat.  I was asking about choosing cheap clothes, shoes, purses, etc. having my arms or cankles exposed in the summer...that kind of thing.

If you really do wonder these things about me while we are riding up the elevator to get to our offices, or stnading next to each other on the train, I'll answer them for you (at least from my perspective).  I am about 50lbs overweight.  When I started to gain weight (emotional eating, and eating so as not to "feel" but regardless, I take full responsibility for it) I worried about all those things you wonder about for me.  I started getting more physicals and my cholesteral is normal (185 the last time), no diabetes (don't know what it's called but the Dr. took blood for it and told me I'm good), my blood pressure is low... 118/70.  I am 46 years old, happily married and have one 8 YO girl and 6YO boy.  I am slower to move around, get tired more than I should and aren't as active as I'd like to be.  So, to answer your questions - yes, I do worry about it and it does bother me, but I was an emotional mess for a few years and ate to hide - my therapist says its very similar to being addicted to alcohol or drugs, but tends to be more accepted because it's not as obvious (I can come to work after eating donuts and no one would know, but if I drank a bottle of booze and came to work, everyone would know) so you don't get a handle on it until it's too late.  If I came to work bombed every day, there'd be an intervention and I'd go to rehab or whatever.  but no one knows about my overeating until I've ballooned and even then, people tend to just think I gained weight and not equate it to a problem I'm trying to hide from.

But whatever, I'm not here making excuses or justifying anything.  I started therapy and eating better.  I'm doing it completely for myself, not for anyone [/quote]

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