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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My second and third children were literally five minutes apart. No regrets.  Some people rise to the occasion, some people would still be overwhelmed with an only child or two children. I think it has less to do with the number of children, and more to do with the parents’ outlook and abilities to make peace with a little chaos.[/quote]

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I had three under three and I would never say this to anyone in real life, but I'm markedly less frazzled than some of my friends with one kid. It comes down to temperament and outlook. [/quote]

It comes down to standards. [/quote]

It sounds snobbish but sadly it’s true. You sure can have multiple children and raise them to adulthood but you are just spreading resources of time, care, supervision, involvement and opportunities too thin so I yes standards are compromised. Insisting and pretending they aren't is deluding self not others.
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All of this starts with the false premise that, no matter what, you will be a good parent. My BIL has an only child,
and he and his wife should have never had any children. My SIL has four children, and clearly she has the ability, patience, and desire because she and her husband are doing a fantastic job. This notion that the main driver to good outcomes is number of children is mostly a mirage. [/quote]

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