Reply to DD unintentionally gave 1st grandchild same first name as DH’s AP

Forum Index » Relationship Discussion (non-explicit)

Reply to "DD unintentionally gave 1st grandchild same first name as DH’s AP"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Girl, I'd say something- that this is the name of a person who inflicted pain upon you and it's the one name you cannot hear without the pain coming up. (This IS the only name, right?  You get one veto).

You sucked it up and were a martyr the first time. Being a martyr again- and for the rest of your life is not worth it.

To those who suggest calling the child by some random nickname/made up name other than the legal name- this might work for some but is not done in our families so that would be off the table.[/quote]

+1- and the kicker is that this is a common name- she can find another common name to use. Normally I don't believe anyone has anything to do with personal baby name choices- people can use whatever stupid name they want....but this literally is the mother of the pg mum- and I think is the only time there could ever be a veto (unless you picked a name like Adolf or family criminal/ child molester's name- that would be bad too).

What if you tried the nickname thing people are suggesting and your DD wasn't into nicknames/got angrier that you tried to pick another name after the fact? That's dopey.

I'm close with my mother so I'd be so pissed if she let me use a horrible name without my knowledge. That would be insane.

This is a no-brainer. I'd say it should be DH's job to bring it up but I bet he'd f*ck it up and tingle her spidey senses that he is the one coming to her instead of you. I don't think this is a great idea to spill on the affair.[/quote]

How is OP going to mention this without tipping off DD on the affair? And put yourself in the DD shoes, if my mom comes to me and tells me she doesn’t like the name Larla because of a vague reason, I’m thinking less of my mom and overthinking it because I’m pregnant as all heck.

I think OP should sit this one out and leave it alone. They weren’t going to mention the affair, but now it’s fair game because OP can’t put on her big girl pants?[/quote]

This question is really based on the person's relationship with their mother- how close and how honest they are and what the established dynamics are. You bring your own history/experiences with your mother or pregnancy into this- so perhaps you would think less of your mother easily or perhaps you were emotionally labile or anxious when pregnant and would overthink. I was not. I have a solid relationship with my mother who does not involve herself in my decisions and is the opposite of a drama queen. I would not think less of her if she told me a name was a stinkeroo. I would accept her honesty. If she made this request of me- It would be very unusual so I'd want to know more, but would accept it if my mother told me it was not a good connotation/she had a bad experience with someone of that name. Again, I don't think anyone should bring up the affair. But hey- if they do end up divorcing and the truth comes out- awkward for little Stanktart Jr.[/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics