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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It’s still all very vague, OP. What does “too attentive” mean? In the absence of concrete examples, it just seems like you want out and are making up excuses that don’t really land or resonate.[/quote]

I agree. OP, I think your mind is made up but you want to not feel like the bad guy. I do not think it is guaranteed that walking out will make you happier. I think you are having a midlife crisis. Most people do not talk about opening their marriage when they are parents of a young kid. Something is up with you. [/quote]

But OP keeps posting and doubling down on her own unhappiness rather than talking about taking proactive steps (other than therapy which frankly doesn't seem to be doing her much good). She really seems to be seeking validation here for her position of "But I want...something...emotional intimacy?" I don't think she has at all defined what she really finds lacking other than "we don't have conversations and won't when we're old" etc. I posted how she could fix at least that part of it but she seems truly unwilling to do any actual [i]work[/i] here. Should she have to do all the work? No. Most of it? Since she's the one who seems unhappy (based on her description of her DH re: the marriage) -- yes, most of the work is hers. But she is just so unwilling to do it. That's why I think she's here seeking validation and an OK to "open the marriage" or divorce.

So, OP? Still going to talk about how you and he have nothing in common but why you won't try to build a relationship where you start having more in common? Still going to talk about the lack of sex and how you "pull away" but why you won't schedule sex (it can work) or go away for a weekend or, or....? Still going to talk about how he might be depressed but you are 100 percent resigned to letting him just BE depressed because, his career! No meds allowed!

You really don't WANT to fix this, do you, OP? If you do: Get to work. [/quote]

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