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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My sympathies, OP. I'd back off if they are stubborn. 
My parents also won't leave their house. Nurses check on them daily. Think of it this way: selling a house means going through EVERY OBJECT in the home; staging it to sell; clearing the people out for open houses (weekends) or when buyers would like to see it (whenever) and dealing with the possibility that it might not sell quickly given how high interest rates are now. AND your parents and sister need  to find other places to leave. There's a financial outlay involved in selling--they might not want to bear those costs.

Step back and take care of yourself. Be interested as if they were friends or distant relatives: "That's too bad. I'm so sorry." 
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OP here:

Yeah, definitely get the work involved. The real estate agent who sells will handle all of it. They might not have a choice though.

In an update, the four day stay in the hospital for my Dad resulted in extreme weakness because they were afraid to feed him, due to his swallow study. The speech therapist there said pureed foods are fine, but one nurse on the floor refused to give it to him due to the risk of aspiration pneumonia (in her mind). My sister tried to explain this is an old issue from his stroke and that NOT feeding him is not acceptable. The wanted him on a tube (doctor was palliative care) but the speech therapist said no, that it would never come out and he can handle a pureed diet and chances are good that he would improve. Plus, there's the fact that my father WANTED TO EAT and did not want a tube. By the time my sister was successful in fighting the system, it had been four days. Once he started eating again, they transferred him to the rehab, which, has been wonderful. They are pretty appalled but have him on real soft foods, which he is enjoying. They are doing some small exercises as well. During this time at the hospital, he also sustained a break to his arm, which should heal on its own. Will he make it? Dunno. He's 89, has multiple issues, etc. But he's in a good place now with people who care about him. I bought a FB Portal for them a few years ago and my sister will take that so I can see/speak with him. Last time I was there, he was already not very social, but it's important to stay connected on that level, even if it's for a moment or so.

I don't have a great feeling about him going home and now that he's in a great place, I'm at peace with that. One day at a time and all that. For those who are kind, thank you. For those going through similar, I hear you and will always be kind and help however I can. For those that are a$$holes, well, you be you  :mrgreen: [/quote]

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