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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Neither you or his GF should pressure him into marriage if he is not ready. It's ok. She might be amazing, but if he is not ready for marriage it doesn't matter[/quote]

OP here. I want to be clear that milestones did not necessarily or only mean a prompt proposal and wedding. But yes, that is one milestone he needs to be mindful as their friends get married.[/quote]

Why? he should get married because GF wants to or because everyone else is doing it? I stand by what I said. He should not be pressured into this "milestone" [/quote]

They've been together for over five years. Relationships need to grow and evolve. They see their close friends hitting relationship milestones: proposals, some weddings, buying homes together, moving to new cities to support each other's careers, whatever it may be. She is getting restless and if she dumps my DS she will have a flock of suitors. And sorry to say he will never do better and regret this for a very long time.[/quote]

[b]You can't possibly know that.[/b] You need to stay out of this and let your son figure out who he wants to marry. Just because she's your ideal dil doesn't make her his ideal wife [/quote]

Oh, bull. Adults can make this accurately make this assessment quite easily.[/quote]

How TF would you, OP, or anyone else know if this is some kind of "ideal match" when OP--who has had extensive conversations over five years with the gf, and her own daughter who is good friends with the gf--how would you be able to say this, when OP has not once in this entire thread, opined on the issue of the sexual compatibility, or lack thereof, between her son and the gf?

Not even in general terms does OP mention this issue.

Why?  Because she doesn't care if her son or his gf would be happy being married to each other.

I assure you--if they fully clicked in the bedroom, OP's son would not need to be "pushed" or "nagged" to getting married to his gf.

OP doesn't care about the sex part because sex is dirty and nasty, don't you understand?  It's just something you do as minimally as possible until you actually get married.  Then you can stop that disgusting stuff.[/quote]

PP, please stop. Your inferences are not logical, and your nastiness is staggering. Most likely OP does not have sufficient knowledge about their sexual compatibility to opine on it.[/quote]

You just proved the point then.  If OP "does not have sufficient knowledge about their sexual compatibility to opine on it"--which WAS the point being made--why do you (or OP, or anyone?) believe OP has a sufficient basis to decide that this is the right woman for her son?

Oh right.  You are one of those people who think a happy marriage doesn't require sex.[/quote]

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