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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, if your son has a great job in tech and the ability to hold down a relationship for 5 years, I don't agree that he'll never do better just because he's not getting married at 25.  You haven't said what makes him such a flake other than he hasn't . . . moved to a new city factoring in his girlfriend?  Like, what are you even asking him to do here?  Leaving aside the weird "I always knew I'd snag a young hottie if I got rich enough" angle this thread is taking - 25 is on the young side for men or women to get married.

I cannot think of a single relationship that could be improved by a mom insisting the couple get married before one (or both) of them are ready.

It's nice that you like this girl, truly.  Don't wreck your relationship with your son troubleshooting his relationship with his girlfriend, which seems to be doing just fine without your input.[/quote]

They have been together FIVE YEARS.  Even if they were dating in college, he should be talking engagement (even with a far off wedding date) or maybe buying a house together and planning a future life together.[/quote]

Not necessarily, given the FIVE YEARS started before they were old enough to drink.  I wasn't ready to buy a house at 25.  And one of OP's complaints is that he's not "factoring her in his decisions to move to a new city" - whatever that means it doesn't sound like it's a good time to buy a home if he doesn't know where he's going to live.

Five years in your 30s is too long to date without a direction, sure.  But your twenties are a great time to be paired up and just having fun, if you've found someone you love.  Or to be single and not on the hunt for a spouse.  They're 25![/quote]

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