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Agreed on talking to his ped as a more reasonable way to assuage one's concerns generally, but on the other hand, I would be willing to bet a fair amount of money that no ped is going to be like, "oh your not yet 14 year old is 5'3" and has no visible signs of puberty (based on a parent, rather than doctor's, assessment), definitely time to FTFO."

Kid is 14 next week and pediatrician appointment is a few days later, as indicated in OP, but thanks for being condescending.

How do you view those first two facts as playing in? I don't. Of course ask, but the kid is not yet even 14 and is as tall as me, a grown adult person.[/quote]

Honestly, I am somewhat sorry to have been snappy, but on the other hand, as someone married to a short guy (5'5") and the mom of two boys who are likely to be short, I am pretty sick of people on DCUM pathologizing and having massive anxiety about shortness within the range of normal.  It's ridiculous.  If someone acted this way about a kid being slightly overweight, they would get jumped all over.[/quote]

Did you actually pay attention to my OP? It’s not about height but about the onset of puberty. Height is relevant because both his parents are VERY tall. So this isn’t like your experience. Yes, it would be very odd and something would be wrong if I, I woman who is not far off 6’ had a 5’5” adult son with my similarly (very) tall husband.[/quote]

Eh. Not really that odd. Unexpected perhaps but certainly within the norm. Dark haired or dark eyed parents have light hair or eyes kids. Short parents have tall kids. Tall parents have short kids.

The average person has 7 genetic recessive traits that can produce a genetic anomaly. And those people uncommonly but regularly pair up and have kids with that genetic anomaly.

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I have an older son and we know a lot of kids who don’t “match” with their parents heights…we know two short parents (maybe 5’8” and 5’3”) with a 6’2” son, for example. Strangely, we also know a lot of tall parents with surprisingly short sons. Unless those boys grow during college (could happen but does not seem super likely)…. Our younger son is tracking to be much shorter than would be expected, as well- though he has some time yet. Yet our DD is ending up much taller than expected. Seems to be a crapshoot.

I’m not convinced that the predictions or charts based on parent height mean much.  [/quote]

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