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I may be the poster you consigned to hell.

[b]I mean at this point, OP, are you a troll? [/b]Every suggestion we make is shot down by you. You did not tell us before we made those suggestions that your siblings had actually DECLINED medical bills, etc. Were we supposed to read your mind? Why do you value you siblings' opinions, if they declined to help their own mother?

If your family won't help your mother, what do you prefer to do? Drop the rope as well? Or continue to help and be extremely resentful an whine on DCUM? Or continue to help, knowing no one is ever going to properly thank you, and that you're only doing it out of compassion and duty?

You think you don't have choices, but you do. They are not the choices you want, but they are still choices. There is no right or wrong here.

PS: the actual answer here is that your parent needs to get into an institution where all her needs will be taken care of. A Medicare home. Give your siblings a timeline, and do it. You don't care what anyone thinks at this point. You're done.

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After sympathizing with OP, I am starting to conclude OP is a troll. It won't take long until OP shoots down the next set of suggestions that kind posters have helpfully provided. [/quote]

Not a troll. People who haven’t been in this situation don’t understand how taxing it is to be the point person. I don’t want to be the one who has the POA or health POA. I don’t want to find a care manager because then did potentially the next 10 years I am in charge of dealing with that person.

My neighbor gave me the best advice that I am going to follow. Be too busy to help out. Then it’s like a game of chicken. My mother is in an assisted living place but eventually will need a higher level of care. I am not going to be the one to figure out where she should go. I needed a plan to slow fade and the neighbors suggestion of going back to work full time is the answer I was looking for. [/quote]

You set the major bills on autopay.  Really, its not that big of a deal and you are making drama over it.[/quote]

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