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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]When you say “to be honest . . . I find it unappealing” that sounds like you might actually be a wee bit jealous. Whether you realize it or not.

Ask yourself this:  if she was bending your ear about stuff NOT related to money that you also couldn’t really relate to, would you feel the same way?  If not, then yea it really IS the money.

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Op here. And I really mean it when I say that talking to her makes the money seem unappealing. Like talking about the giant house they are going to buy and all the stuff that goes into it (like having a house that basically requires full time staff) sounds unappealing to me. So does a lot of the stress around the very elite privates they are applying to. Talking to her has actually made me appreciate my own life a bit more because it really does sound very stressful.

But to answer your question, yes, if she was going on and on in this same way about like a really specific-to-her work issue (while never really taking time to listen to me talk about my job) or something else non-money related, I would feel the same way. I feel like all we do now is talk about her life. Like I said, I have stuff going on in my life, too. But I feel like it gets short shrift both because she is so anxious and focused on these big changes in her life, and because I think something like me dealing with my kid's special needs or my DH and I managing some issues with my MIL's declining health, don't have the immediacy and largeness of the stuff she is currently worrying about. Basically whenever I share anything about my own life, I feel like it just becomes a jumping off point for her to launch into a monologue about her stuff, and that is the source of my resentment. Not the money.

You can believe me or not.[/quote]

I think this sounds frustrating and honestly it’s not like other problems someone might have because it’s all optional - if buying a super $$$ house is crazy stressful and applying to elite privates, we’ll, don’t do it. Just because you have money doesn’t require you to spend it. By chance, is there a marital issue here / like she isn’t into all these trappings but the spouse is insisting? If this is a close friend I might be very blunt, like hey, you se unhappy and like you aren’t excited about x, y and z…why are you doing it? And so on.[/quote]

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