Reply to Left family weekend early-Wdyt?

Forum Index » Family Relationships

Reply to "Left family weekend early-Wdyt? "

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous]Substitute the word “hurt” for “mad.”

The family made plans. Your plan was to be there until Sunday morning. They were looking forward to spending time with you on Saturday. At the last minute, you changed plans for reasons that they didn’t really sound 100 percent kosher. You hurt their feelings. They’ll get over it, but I think if you look at it through their eyes, maybe you can understand how it made them feel. Like you got there, decided they/this experience was lacking, and looked for an excuse for an early exit. Again: it hurt their feelings. In some families maybe there’s a lot of coming and going and people don’t really care, but this doesn’t sound like that kind of family. Which I think you know, again looking at your reference to the sibling as a scheduling “prima donna.”  (This IS annoying - I get it.)

It would have been totally different if you had changed the plans before arrival. Once you got there, short of some huge catastrophic weather event, changing the plans mid-trip looks like a statement about how fun or not fun the trip was for you, in real time, as it was unfolding. What they heard from your actions was: “This isn’t worth our time. Let’s go home.”

[/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics