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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Everyone is telling you it’s PPD and it’s brain chemistry.  I understand why.

There’s also the chance that you’re simply very unhappy because of a terrible situation.  A lot of women dislike having a baby but it’s not socially acceptable to share this.  You destroyed your body, can’t go to work, aren’t sleeping well or at all, can’t go to social functions etc…of course you’re unhappy!  It’s a major life change and isn’t necessarily a chemical imbalance.

Regardless get help.  But not just for PPD. Try to find a sitter, night nurse, anyone who can give you a break, even if it’s short.  Even just going for a manicure or a coffee will help your mood.  Try to start exercising with the baby as that can help and is a break from holding the baby.  Also babies cry and make sure putting the baby down in a safe place even if the baby cries.  [/quote]

I very very very much second this comment. I had (have, but it’s better) a hellaciously bad sleeper and went for months surviving on 1-2 hours broken sleep a night. I loved her but thought about harming my newborn and myself every night. This started when she hit the 4 month sleep regression and never slept again so it wasn’t even hormonal PPD because my hormones had already stabilized. My therapist said I was having a normal reaction to the incredible stress of getting no sleep and having a very high needs baby.

Get help, OP. Night nurses are a godsend and you should hire one tomorrow if sleep isn’t going well. Get time off during the day, too, even if you just use it to sit and do nothing. PPD is real but sometimes having a baby is just unexpectedly hard.[/quote]

What in the what. No, it is not normal to hate your baby. I had a super rough time with sleep in the beginning to the point where I was so exhausted I was sobbing hysterically in the shower very morning and hearing things that weren’t there. I was never less than 100% obsessed with my baby and never dreamed of harming him.

If you are having these thoughts and feelings, it is not normal. It is a symptom of ppd. We should not normalize this. I am so glad OP is getting help, please stop trying to make hating and wanting to harm your own baby out to be normal. It is not. [/quote]

Please stop.  Not all women love being a mom and having a baby.  They just don’t.  [/quote]

This!!! It's a huge secret!!![/quote]

It really isn't. I know a very slim minority have a lot of incentive to try to convince themselves this is true, but it isn't. If you are having these feelings you likely have PPD and should tell someone and get help, like OP has very admirably done. [/quote]

WHOOSH! You didn't even know what your were commenting about!!! The original was "Please stop. Not all women love being a mom and having a baby. They just don’t."

Follow along....[/quote]

That is exactly what I am commenting on. It's not a normal feeling. [/quote]

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