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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Just a different take, but The Self Driven Child and the sequel What Do You Say are all about putting the responsibility for your kid's life back where it belongs....on them. Not to say we don't have a role, but I'm looking for ways to support my kid and hold boundaries but reduce micromanaging.

They are worth a read, whether you agree or not. Good luck. [/quote]

You know it's not just trying to help your kid with anything.  It's all the parent stuff that comes with - private school includes a lot of commitments.  Forms, carpools, planning vacations, taking them to Dr and if they are sick, taking care of them.  It's a certain extent of worrying about them too.  Laundry is the least of my probs and my kids in MS can make breakfast for dinner so it's not like I'm a helicopter mom.

But being a parent it's just exhausting.  I'm not sure how you get around that by trying to pass off things your kid can do for themselves.  Cause it's simply not enough.

The whole working moms thing is great - I work and many of my girlfriends are breadwinners but then their husbands stay home and take care if the kids.  So whether it's mom or dad, there's one parent who has to take the flex and a step behind in career because being a parent is a full time job.

I think it's absolutely why so many kids are messed up now.  I'm a liberal and I don't say that family values of having to eat dinner home every night is the secret but on some level, o don't see how you get through without help or sleep :). Because a parent should be the one taking care if their kid ultimately.  There's not always enough time for work and parenting no matter what age.[/quote]

I agree with this somewhat. If both parents have big jobs or demanding jobs outside the home it seems that you need a grandparent or nanny/house manager to help provide support to kids or one parent has got to be able to flex. Between activities, doctors, school stuff, college, etc. In addition to getting kids physically from point A to point B throughout the week there is all the “invisible” work.[/quote] The thread is low-key misogynistic trolling. 
It isn't exhausting to be the parent of teens any more than you choose to make it. It is nonsense to say you need a third adult driving and doing the invisible work.

Women, do your things, have your babies and your teens, have your jobs and your careers. You'll make the decisions you have to make as problems and changes arise, including energy levels as we age. [/quote]

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