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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]1. Most married people don’t get overnight trips away from their kids together.  It’s just not normal.

2. You aren’t hearing the down side to the “my parents are around all the time” setup, so don’t imagine it’s all peachy.  There are good and bad parts, like anything.  But you seem to be envisioning only the good parts of another setup and noticing only the bad parts of yours.  [/quote]

This. My parents are around all the time and are helpful, but I pay emotionally and mentally for the 5-6 nights a year my kids spend the night at their house and the other help they provide. My parents will provide almost any help I need, but they will not suggest or plan anything on their own. My mom has mobility issues and dietary restrictions, yet she will not research or call or plan anything. She will just say “let’s have brunch” and if I ask where she says “oh, you pick” It’s that way for everything. They come to every sporting event or school performance and my kids love it - but my parents are visibly annoyed when I talk to my friends and socialize part of the time instead of sitting with them. Sometimes I long for the freedom to just worry about my spouse and children and not have to plan for 2 extra adults at all times. I love them, but they are retired and I work full time and yet they never acknowledge or seem to understand how much work they make for me - even when I ask for the tiniest bit of help like a list of potential restaurants for a vacation I plan and pay for that they join us on annually. [/quote]

PP, if your parents' help isn't worth it for you, why not just decline it? You don't have to let your kids stay with them.[/quote]

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