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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Well my bpd parent did not have abusive parents. She did become one though.

She’s never tried to commit suicide, just threatened it to get me to come rescue her only to then act like I was crazy for ever thinking she’d actually do something like that. But keeps doing it periodically because she knows I can’t let myself not take it seriously just in case.

Intellectually I’m aware that it is good that clinicians try to get to the bottom of this and try to find treatment. But I just can’t really get on board with equating this to altruism. When my mom has systemically sh$t talked everyone I’ve ever loved to anyone who will listen (including implying that my husband abused our daughter, among many other blatant falsehoods about him), there is a part of her that knows what she’s doing. A vindictive and vicious part of her. And feeling bad about running someone over with your car doesn’t really make a difference when you keep getting back in the car to run over the body a few more times.

Autistic people don’t feel the same way others feel, they functionally cannot understand. It is not the same.[/quote]

I can tell you what I do as a DBT therapist when a patient threatens suicide…
I either do nothing, or I call the police to do a well check. 
I also explicitly tell people that if they harm themselves or threaten suicide in my voicemail, then I go no contact for 24 hours.  The reason for that is that going over there, calling, etc is a positive reinforcement.  [/quote]

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