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[quote=Anonymous]For the people saying, “how would you want to be treated when you are old,” I would want my child to be able to speak honestly with me about their feelings rather than cringing every time I call.

I thought DCUM was all in favor of setting boundaries? This OP is not ignoring the father. The father is involved with the family and sees them multiple times a week. It’s not “just” a nightly phone call. Maybe you guys would be OK with a phone call, but the OP is not. That doesn’t make the OP evil or neglectful.

Caring and loving your elderly parents does not mean you have to do every single thing they want you to do. A call every night is not a need, like medication management or safe movement in the home. Also, I don’t think that loving your parents means treating them like very little children. They are adults, they have lived a long life. They are resilient. They can handle the news that somebody doesn’t want to speak with them every single night. Maybe having to deal with this loneliness on his own would get the father to take some action like going on a dating service or moving into assisted living or who knows what.[/quote]

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