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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]21:32 (mean heartless poster) here.

I stand by what I said. You sound like you have nothing else going on in your life and your tone is VERY dramatic and martyrish, like one of those teenage girls who would write poems about death and dress in long white nightgown dresses. Actually, to be more accurate, you write like a jilted Victorian lover with lots of melodramatic phrasing and piety! Your phrasing is so stilted, it honestly sounds trollish.

[quote]My husband [size=18]desired to spend his birthday[/size] 2 hours away with his brother and nephew by attending football games for a traveling team. [/quote]

[quote]I am absolutely crushed. [/quote]

[quote][size=18]I am terribly upset[/size] and not sure if this is normal for a 37 year old man [size=18]or is there something wrong with me [/size]as to why he would not want to at least be home with us. [/quote]
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I was unsure if this happens with other wives who take it in stride. [/quote]
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I wonder whether it is ingrained in the female DNA to tear into each other. [/quote]

Can't you hear how off you sound compared to the way everyone else is communicating? I'll repeat what I said. Your reaction + this post = not normal. I'm saying this seriously and without snark: if you have a history of mental illness, or a family history even, please see someone asap. Because you can live a happier and more fulfilled life than you have now.[/quote]

Are you a dude? [/quote]

Okay, this poster is being mean...but he/she is correct. I only say that as someone who was previously a whiny /needy person in relationships. What I think the poster is trying to say, is that you just sound like you need your husband to meet your every emotional need. If you were not so needy, his changing of plans might have been taken by you as a slight inconvenience or irritation, but you wouldn't have reacted with so much drama. Read the book "Women who love too much". It basically describes your behavior. A lot of what you are saying in these posts sounds controlling and manipulative. You might not realize it and if left unchecked it could really ruin your relationship.   And in terms of the way you are phrasing things, it  is a bit odd. In the 21:21 post you said he wnated to have dinner "with myself and his sons"  and then said "hence wrote for advice on this forum that evening." Maybe you aren't a native speaker or maybe you are trying really really really hard to sound educated, but the "mean" poster is right that your wording just seems off and makes your responses seem odd. For your sake, take some time and reflect on what that poster said because there is some truth to it. The level of neediness you are exhibiting grows old fast.[/quote]

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