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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Wow I’m surprised everyone is so anti-OP. I actually find food and fitness to come up a lot with friends - it’s a big part of daily life. And it becomes a slippery slope of what is ok to talk about and what is vanity. So I think making weight a completely taboo topic isn’t the answer. The answer is balance like most things. I have seen how body positive all my 19 year old friends are and most of them [b]came back from their freshman year of college having gained weight as you absolutely can’t say anything. [/b] This just isn’t healthy either! 
Regardless your sister is telling you she’s not comfortable either because you all talk about it too much or her own personal insecurities or whatever. You have to respect that. To lay down this boundary when she’s pregnant before the child is born or can talk…yep, I agree it’s over the top. [/quote]

Why do you *need* to say something to a 19 year old who gained weight? And why do you think that pointing it out would help? Lady, you are the problem. [/quote]
It’s not healthy. You can argue all you want but bottom line is excess weight isn’t good for our bodies. Telling these girls it’s fine and to embrace it isn’t in their best long term interests. 
I’ve had autoimmune joint issues all my life and can’t understand why anyone would not take care of their bodies and cause it harm if it’s within their power to change it. 
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She's 19. She's presumably heard of the connection between weight and health. She does NOT need you her to tell her. No one is telling you to tell her it's fine and to embrace it. They're telling you to shut up about it. Ask her how school is going. Ask her if she's enjoying her summer. Ask her who her favorite professor is so far. Don't talk about her weight!

It's so funny how people want to butt in on this. I rarely floss, and NO one has every lectured me on it besides... my dentist. I never show up to someone's house for the weekend and have them say "oh, I see you didn't bring floss! You must floss it's so important for health." People just... realize it's none of their business? Weight is the same. [/quote]

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