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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My younger sister is pregnant with a girl and has warned the rest of us that she will ban us from engaging with her child if we continue toxic behaviors around her. The toxic behaviors she is citing is as follows:

- comments about having a bad hair or skin day
- comments about losing or gaining weight 
- comments about beauty and being pretty

[b]We are a large family with 5 sisters so obviously a lot of our talk is about who lost weight who started a new workout who iss eating what meal plan etc.[/b]

I know she means well but it seems a bit extreme. We feel like we must walk on egg shells around her. [/quote]

No, this is not "obvious" - it's toxic. I have a big, close group of long time women friends, and this kinda stuff comes up, like, 5% of the time. Your sister is right. You're so deep into this you don't see how unhealthy it is for you, for your family, and absolutely for this new baby for this to be such a huge part of your mental and social energy. At an absolute minimum, you need to cut this stuff out in front of your niece. But honestly, I hope you take this as the wake up call you need. There is more to life than what you look like and what you weigh. Do you talk about... the news? Your jobs? Parenting? What you do in your free time? Good TV you've been watching?

The fact that you find this extreme and that you're walking on egg shells means that this is a huge part of your thought and conversational patterns. Honestly, that's so sad. You have this one amazing and wonderful life. Find something else to focus on. Not just for your sister or your niece, but for you. [/quote]

I agree with you 100%!  I have sisters, and a lot of women friends, and these subjects never come up,  ever. See your sister's reasonable request as a reset button.[/quote]

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