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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote]Anonymous wrote:
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You can't talk about anything other than your appearance when her daughter is around? Really?

OF COURSE we can! That is not the point. It’s natural for the conversation to steer into these topics usually directed by HER.[/quote]

You still don't get it, OP. It's NOT natural for the conversations to steer into these topics and if it is for you and your sisters, it IS toxic. Especially to a growing girl.

I posted before but my family always talked about looks. even when telling us about someone getting married. This is the conversation I literally just heard between my mother and her sister.

Billy just got married. The wife is nice. She's heavy. Not heavy, heavy, but (and the arms show wide hips) heavy. Her hair is thick, but she has bangs that cover her eyes.

Aunt - She has a pretty face. She needs to clear the pimples, but her face is pretty.

Me- does she work? What does she do?

They - yes, she has good career. She wears suits to work, but they are tight on her.

Me - what does she do?

They stare at me and don't know how to respond.

That's how I picture you and your sisters,OP. It's not good.
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+1 I am a PP too and this is exactly what goes down in my family of origin. I could call my mom right now and somehow she'd work it in to tell me what all she's eaten and how she feels like a pig. She's in her 80s and weighs under 110 pounds.

Your sister might be overreacting in the moment (although I have a sense the OP isn't the most reliable narrator), but her instinct here isn't wrong. [/quote]

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