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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Also, I would be super annoyed if my significant other's college aged kids were randomly dropping by and bringing their friends to his pool, just saying. I'm not saying OP's wrong about an open door policy with his kids but that would be SUPER annoying[/quote]

If you were his WIFE and your name was on the deed, then it would matter. But since she’s a GIRLFRIEND be it’s not her house, it doesn’t.[/quote]

If she is a live-in and/or very serious girlfriend it's absolutely her right.[/quote]

Nope. And OP is smart and prioritizes his kids, so it sounds like it won’t be an issue anyway, since she won’t be allowed to move into his house if she demands to control his kids. Good.[/quote]

These are college kids coming to use the pool, they are not coming to have heart-to-heart bonding with Daddy. It is totally and completely reasonable for her to have a heads up that people who don't live at the house, will be at the house. As the *parent* in this situation (not the girlfriend), I would want a heads up that my child is coming, so she doesn't walk in on us doing it or something.[/quote]

You can keep repeating this as many times as you like, but you’ll still be wrong. She’ll get that right when she has a ring and not before.[/quote]

The "right"?  It sounds like this relationship has some kind of weird power imbalance.  Like OP and his house are some prize to be won.  Is she like a sugar baby something?  I personally wouldn't want to date someone who was opposed to setting boundaries with their adult children as that issue will manifest itself in other future scenarios outside the pool.  Also wouldn't want to move into someone else's house, especially here where the new person will clearly always be an outsider.  The only reason I can imagine putting up with this nonsense is if she has nothing of her own... [/quote]

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