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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I posted a few months ago about my son's looming graduation. Now he is home and moping around. He finally opened up that feels like an idiot, he's overwhelmed and he's humiliated compared to all of his overachieving classmates. He's scared to ask his more connected friends (and their parents) for help because his resume is so vacant and they seem so perfect. He knows he can apply for random entry-level jobs any random college grad can apply for but he feels like he has wasted the opportunity if he settles for anything. He does not mean that in a snobby way–we are just a middle class family–but I also know how that could come across. It was a very expensive education and the opportunity of a lifetime. Any help in coaxing him out of this funk and where he should be looking is appreciated. Should he contact career services at his alma mater or would reaching out to his network of friends and their parents offer far more opportunities?

I want to stress his resume is basically vacant outside of the new BA and his GPA is pretty abysmal, so he thinks he's going to be mocked or his resume will just be ignored.[/quote]

Not to be rude, but a huge part of the problem here seems to be that both you and he think there's something really special or different about getting a job out of an Ivy League school than any other school. Sure, there are differences, but get over it.

Yes, he should absolutely contact his career services office.[/quote]
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The other problem is that you are both assuming everyone got their internships and jobs from connections. This couldn’t be further from the truth, you are just grasping to the ones you know about. I worked on wall st for a while and did undergrad recruiting at my alma mater (everyone did). The kids going through the recruiting process were from across the board. Very few were connected and even when those ones were given summer internships, they often weren’t given full time offers. Many of the kids were first generation and/or from incredibly poor backgrounds. What they had was drive and ambition. I’m not saying your son can’t get there but stop feeding an attitude that it’s not his fault bc you’re not upper class or connected. 
Your son needs to fill up that resume asap and craft a story. Did he not love his major? Then go to a local,even community, college and take a class in what he’s going to aim for. Take accounting or finance classes and get sn A. At the same time he needs a meaningful volunteer job. Tutor at a summer school or something. Then for the third concurrent thing he needs to get a job. It can be the bottom of the barrel but in the area he’s interested in. If he doesn’t know then work for a tutoring company. [/quote]

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