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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think it is impossible for any of us to judge who is in the right here not knowing your kid and not being there at the time.  I have been in this exact situation with my kids where I know they would love something, but they are scared and won't do it, but just need that extra push.  Pushing through anxiety and coming out the other side is one of the best feelings in life.  Whether it is getting up in front of the class for the class play, or zip lining, or soccer tryouts, sometimes you just have to do it despite being scared or afraid.

For all of the "zip-lining is dangerous" types, it absolutely isn't.  I think there is a lot of scared parents on this thread that are projecting their own fears onto the child in OPs post.[/quote]

It's clear to me from OP's post that a child with a normal "push-able" amount of fear isn't going to have a meltdown over it, whereas here this child did. OP mentioned this child has issues. Not only that, but the parents knew beforehand that this child wouldn't like this activity. So your conclusions are completely off, PP. Nowhere did OP say that their child wanted to do this. They actually said they did not.

If you haven't felt a complete block over something in your life, count yourself lucky. Likewise if your children have not had this. You just cannot  measure the psychological harm you can do to a child with special needs by forcing them into something that's traumatic to them. It's abusive. More importantly, it will damage your relationship, because they are less likely to trust you, since you are the source of stressful events. This means that going forward, you are probably going to make the block worse, not better, and it might expand to all the things you suggest, just because they come from you, and you have proven yourself to be unreliable for their sense of safety.

There are ways to treat phobias, and throwing patients in the deep end is not it. Since this is ziplining for a child with issues, most people would be reasonable enough to let it go, instead of either forcing the matter and creating a lot of pain, or gradually exposing their child to their phobia according to the standard of care. For ziplining, it's just not worth it. For other activities, it might be.

You come across as very ignorant.

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